Dating can be a challenge. It takes planning, money, and effort. Whether you are just newly dating someone or have been married for a long time, it is so easy to get stuck in a dating rut – either getting bored with your dates, or not going often enough. After 11 years of marriage, I am realizing that my husband and I have never dated on a regular basis. We go out every once in a while, but with four young children, it is almost impossible to get away!
In lieu of the Valentine’s holiday that is fast approaching, I have compiled a list of the very best reasons why you should make it a priority to date the person you love. And not just hang out – actually GO out. There is a big difference there.
More than anything else, maintaining a connection with your favorite person is the most important reason to spend quality time together. Just the act of planning a date is an act of love. It means that the person planning cares so much about you that they want to be with you.
Talk, reminisce, and reconnect on an emotional, spiritual, and physical level. Spending quality time together will bring you closer as a couple.
2. Take a break from the children
It is so special to take time on the weekends to hang out as a family. Those are some of our most treasured times! That being said, some of my favorite moments are the ones when my husband and I are alone watching funny YouTube videos together. Even if you both work outside the home and only spend time with the kids on weekends, it is still important to take time to be together as a couple. So, hire a sitter, kiss the kids goodbye, and go out every once in a while! The kids sometimes need a break from you, too!
- Take a break from the mundane
We have weeks where we hardly talk about anything besides the logistics of family life. Between his commute, job, and school, and my job, homemaking, and child rearing, we barely have any time or energy at the end of the day to say much to each other. We either silently watch TV or silently scroll on our phones. LAME! Date night forces you to put away everyday life, put away your phones, and actually have a real conversation with the person that you love the most.
- Have a reason to get dressed up
I don’t know about you, but there are some days when I don’t even get ready. Makeup is not an everyday thing for me. Special date nights give you a chance to get dressed up, put on some red lipstick, wear the amazing shoes sitting in your closet, and look your very best. What a great way to rekindle the romance!
- Try something new together
After some last minute planning and scrambling for a babysitter, we ended up going out last weekend for a tried and true date night classic: dinner and a movie. Though dinner was good, and the movie was entertaining, I couldn’t help but feel a little bit let down afterward. I thought to myself, if the whole point of going out on a date is to connect with my spouse, then why am I sitting here watching a screen for two hours?
Here are some ideas to shake things up a bit:
Do something outdoors, like skiing, hiking, or biking.
Go to a concert, symphony, or play
Have a picnic
Take an art class together
Attend a spiritual meeting at your church, synagogue or temple
When it comes to dating, any time spent together is better than no time together. Once a month is better than never! So get out there, show the one you love how much you care, and ask them out on a date!